10 Things Your Bartender Wishes You’d Stop Doing
You want to keep your bartender happy! Here's what to avoid doing.
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Going out for a night on the town? We’re all about these classic cocktails. But keep in mind that while you’re having fun with your friends, some things you’re doing at the bar may not be so fun for your bartender. To be a good patron, stop doing these 10 things when you’re at your favorite watering hole. Your bartender will thank you!
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Waving Cash at Them
You may have heard that showing cash gets you served faster, but it’s not usually the case.
“In a busy bar, the bartender is keeping a mental tally of who’s next,” explains longtime bartender Ian Cliffe, who’s worked in both New York City and Milwaukee. “Look for eye contact or the nod—your bartender will let you know they see you.”
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Asking for a “Beer”
You’d be surprised at the number of people who go to the bar and simply ask for “a beer.” Since the vast majority of bars have more than one beer choice, you’re going to need to be a touch more specific. To help you out, here’s the best craft beer from all 50 states.
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Asking “What Do You Really Do?”
Some patrons assume bartending is a side gig, but for many, it’s a serious full-time job. That’s why asking questions like “What do you really do?” can be rude.
“Sure, some bartenders are working through school,” says Cliffe. “But don’t risk insulting your bartender’s career choice.” And who knows? You may even be insulting the owner.
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Sending Back “Weak” Drinks
Most drinks call for precise measurements, and your bartender knows exactly how much alcohol it’s supposed to have. (You can master mixed drinks, too.) For a stronger drink, it’s best to ask for a double or an extra shot.
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Hitting on Them
It’s no surprise that most bartenders don’t appreciate being asked out while they’re working. If you really had a connection, wait until it’s slow or the end of the night, be polite and accept “no” for an answer. (Be sure to leave a nice tip!)
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Asking for Free Drinks on Your Birthday
“If you’re a regular, you will probably get something,” Cliffe explains. “And if the bar you are in is a ‘birthday bar,’ definitely ask! But if it’s not your regular spot or a birthday bar, I’ll probably smile and say, ‘Oh, happy birthday.'”
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“I’m not sure how a greeting translates to, ‘What can I getcha?’ but it inevitably does,” says Cliffe. “In a busy bar, take this as a clue that the bartender knows you are there and will come take your order soon.”
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Eating from the Garnish Tray
You really don’t want to put your fingers directly in the fruit tray. It’s unsanitary and sure to annoy your bartender and the other patrons. But you can always ask for extra olives!
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Ordering Your Group’s Drinks One by One by One…
When you’re ordering for a group, try to order all your drinks at once. “This is important in a busy bar,” says Cliffe. “Bartenders know the best way to get two Old Fashioneds, a couple drafts and a gin and tonic made as quickly as possible.”